With all due respect to Fujoshi and
Fundashi with fetishes that can never change, but not all
Seme need to be big shouldered with big muscles and even bigger voices. They
don't have to be stern or angry or overtly pushy. I know Iason Mink
is not all of these things. I'll leave him out of the mix for this
argument, so more of you may listen to what I am proposing. More and
more mangaka and novelists are realizing this and crafting characters
that are so complex and subtle that it is hard to spot the Seme in
the room. Conversely, the uke are no longer all timid and quivering. This
is very refreshing, and to me a far more interesting read. Who wants
to read what is the same story over and over again? It also never
made sense to me why such strong and uncompromising characters would
be interested in the timid and weak willed. This sort of attraction
always smacked of Seme that aren't really the incredible lovers they
were purported to be. One might argue – and more than one has –
that these Seme are being protective. If that is the case, what IS up
with the raping and over all physical abuse? That's real protective.
And it's real manly of someone who is often twice as big as the uke.
And no, that horse will never be too dead for me to stop beating.
Where was I? Ah, yes. With all these
changes, how do you spot the Seme in a manga or anime? It's still
easy enough. It's all in the personality. A Seme is a catalyst for
significant action in a story. He's doing stuff, and usually that
stuff is ahead of the curb of everyone else. He has irresistible
charisma or force of personality that gets even the hesitant to do
his bidding. That is NOT the same as being able to bully someone into
obeying. This is the ability to make what they want to do so
compelling that everyone – not just the uke – feels they must to
it. They are self possessed in general. This can manifest itself in a
couple of ways. Either the Seme is supremely confident of their
personal abilities or they know what they want from life. Sometimes,
it's both. The main thing is that the Seme brings order to a uke's
life as well as love. Sometimes that is actual protection in some
fashion and other times it's personal fulfillment. To bring this kind
of order, a Seme MUST have control of himself as a person. Also, a
Seme doesn't have to be the one always pitching sexually. He's brave
enough to know what he wants and have it.
And it's time to play 'Whose Your
Seme?' Some of these shows are yaoi, some of them have tons of shipping or fans creating doujinshi. Let's begin with fans
Starfighter
webcomic. Everyone and her uncle thinks that Cain is the Seme because
of his rambunctious greeting of Abel early in the story. He certainly
seemed to be have his way with Abel whenever he felt like it. But
Cain does not have enough self-possession to be a Seme. He can barely
keep himself in check enough to keep from fighting his fellow gunners
at the drop of a hat. Meanwhile, since their first mission together,
it's becoming more and more clear which one of this pair has more
self control and more control over the relationship. Abel kept Cain
from starting a fight with some snots that really needed a punch in
the face and then there is this line during the last mission: I'm not
going to let them hurt you. Given what they were facing, that's a
pretty badassed Seme line to me!
I've debated about Whose the Seme a
number of times but never more than with the debut of Free! IwatobiSwim Club. It is an anime (not yaoi) show with five really hot and interesting male
characters who have an intense dynamic between them. The shipping
began before there were trailers explaining what the show was about
(basically, the adventures of a newly formed high school swim team
who are trying to overcome past problems and make it to the national
competition). Most everyone agrees that the show's lead hottie, Haruka
Nanase (Haru) http://free-anime.wikia.com/wiki/Haruka_Nanase
and the most recently recruited member of the team, Rei Ryugazaki
http://free-anime.wikia.com/wiki/Rei_Ryugazaki
are uke. Where I diverge from most is who the Seme are. The popular
wisdom had Haru shipped with his closest friend and neighbor, Makoto
Tachibana http://free-anime.wikia.com/wiki/Makoto_Tachibana
(one of the most complex and compelling Seme I've ever seen) and
former friend and rival Rin Motsuoka
http://free-anime.wikia.com/wiki/Rin_Matsuoka.
While I agree that Haru and Makoto are a couple (probably for all of
their lives – it's a 'till death do we part pairing), Rin is not a
Seme. He has no clue who he is or what he wants. He has no
self-control. All he could bring to a uke is turmoil and misery. He
tried mightily to bring that to Haru as well as his own Kohai, Nitori http://free-anime.wikia.com/wiki/Aiichiro_Nitori. Fortunately, Haru has a Seme that brings
order and peace and love to his life and other loved ones that bring him
happiness. And if Rin is not Haru's Seme, he certainly is not the big
Seme for this series. That honor goes to the most stealthy Seme of
all, Nagisa Hazuki http://free-anime.wikia.com/wiki/Nagisa_Hazuki
. Though shorter and more cherubic, Nagisa possesses all of the
traits of a real Seme. He was not only the catalyst behind the return
of the high school swim club, he was also responsible for recruiting
a highly reluctant Rei, the vitally important 4th man that
allowed the team to move forward. He is responsible for getting the
highly reluctant coach to help them. He is always rallying them when
they need it most and making things happen through sheer force of
will. And he is ever protective of his team. Give him five years, and
I daresay that he could go toe to toe with Iason Mink himself as a
Seme. Note: In the photo below, I've aged Nigas to the age of his older teammates to give an idea of the Seme he is on his way to be. Rei had better brace himself(forgive my crude artwork)Note: In the photo above, Nigasa has Rei gleefully by the collar. That day will come faster than he
realizes that Nigasa will want more from him than a butterfly stroke. Rei
already has trouble refusing him. 
Finally, I think these changes to Seme
are wonderful, because it has caused the rise of the Dangerous uke.
The uke of Tightrope and Ikoku Irokoi Romantan and Tyrant Who Fall in
Love could not have existed if these tropes had not changed. That
kind of change is truly a beautiful thing. Observe:
